Caregiving takes an enormous emotional and physical toll even when it is a labor of love and/or obligation. In the case of caring for someone with progressive memory loss, a spouse or child often has to parent their partner or parent. This sets up a natural and sad antagonism. The caregiver must set limits and enforce rules (nag and be bossy) and the care receiver isn’t aware that they need the guidance as they forget that they forget and resent and resist rather than appreciate the efforts on their behalf. Take for example the case of a caregiver (partner or child) who is caring for her very forgetful but very bright husband/father. He is so forgetful that he cannot monitor how much money he spends in any given month and is prone to overspend. His partner/daughter has to put him […]